"Making a decision takes a moment, living a decision takes a lifetime." Sherif A El-Mawardy
We make decisions all the time but it's important to have an understanding of what drives them. For example, what did you have for breakfast this morning? What helped you decide? Convenience? Health? Time?
One of my favourite books "A Return to Love" by Mariam Williamson, says decisions are made from just two things...love or fear! A 'love' decision looks something like this:
-I have the potential
-I have the resources to make this work
-I can do this
A fear-based decision suggests:
-I might not be able to achieve this
-I don't have the experience
-I'm worried what people think
Do you think you can make a decision out of love with negative thoughts making an appearance? Believe it or not you can! You could be considering a decision that's in your interest (for example, buying a car to get to work) but there is negative self-talk and disbelief it could happen. This has the power to sway you and could lead you to make a decision based on fear rather love for yourself or those around you. One of my favourite motivational speakers Les Brown says:
"Life takes on meaning when you become motivated, set goals and charge after them in an unstoppable manner."
So, what do you think this means about making decisions? I think it strongly suggests you should be thinking:
-What if something good happens?
-What if this does work out?
-How will I feel when I get what I want?
Are these questions refreshing? Does it lift your mood? They actually reflect the potential of your final decision being the right one and working out for you! Remember, dark is simply the absence of light. This means you can turn fear, thinking negatively etc around. Just switch the light on and think, 'what are all my options?'.
So what did you have for breakfast yesterday? What was the motivation behind that decision? Love or fear? Think about other recent choices you've made. See a pattern? It's so easy to form thinking and decision making habits we don't even see, so here are 3 key tips:
1. Reflect on what's driving your basic decisions? Love or fear? There's only room for one. Your cannot have an open heart and a negative thought at the same time.
2. Know what you want. Often we don't know what we want. It's literally that simple. It's much easier when we know and live by our value base.
3. Where are you on the Cycle of Change? All decisions derive from a thinking and doing process. See where you are by looking at the diagram below.
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You've read this far...so what's driving your decision about attending this event?